Kids at Weddings: How to Say “Kid-Free” or Kindly Ask Guests to Mind Their Children

Planning a wedding means making dozens of decisions—big ones like choosing your venue, and small ones like whether to serve chicken or steak. But one topic that always sparks conversation is kids at weddings. Every couple has a different vision, and every family has different needs. There’s no “right” answer—only the right answer for you.

At The Venue at Valley View Farm, we have our own guys running around helping with your big day. Some events are kid free, parents night out and others have tons of kids filling the air with laughter. Both are beautiful, and both deserve clear communication and respect.

Here’s how to handle the “kids or no kids” question kindly, clearly, and without any hurt feelings.

If You Want a Kid-Free Wedding

Choosing an adults-only celebration doesn’t make you rude—it makes you honest about the vibe you want. Whether it’s a candlelit dinner, a lively dance floor, or simply wanting guests to relax without worrying about bedtime routines, your preferences matter.

Here are gentle ways to word it:

• “We love your little ones, but this celebration will be adults-only. We appreciate you making arrangements so you can enjoy a relaxing evening with us.”

• “We respectfully request no children at the ceremony or reception. Thank you for understanding our vision for the day.”

• “Due to limited space, we’re unable to accommodate children. We hope you can still celebrate with us!”

Place this wording on your invitations, RSVP page, and wedding website so expectations are clear from the beginning.

Pro Tip from the Venue:

If many of your guests are traveling, consider providing a small list of trusted local babysitters or childcare services. It shows thoughtfulness and can ease the stress for families who still want to attend.

If Children Are Invited—but Supervision Is Required

Maybe you welcome kids, but not chaos. That’s completely fair. Parents often assume weddings are big playgrounds—especially if there’s wide open space—so gentle reminders help protect your ceremony, décor, rentals, and sanity.

Try phrasing it like:

• “We’re excited to celebrate with guests of all ages! We kindly ask parents to supervise their children throughout the day to help ensure a safe and comfortable experience for everyone.”

• “Our venue includes outdoor areas and décor that need a little extra care, so please keep your little ones close.”

• “To help our day run smoothly, please make sure your children remain with you during the ceremony and reception.”

Fun & Helpful Ways to Include Kids—Without the Chaos

If you’re inviting kids and want to make the day easier on parents (and smoother for you), consider incorporating one of these thoughtful options:

1. A Kids’ Table

Set up a small table with coloring books, crayons, bubbles, simple crafts, or inexpensive toys. This gives kids a place to sit, stay engaged, and have fun—without wandering into the cake table.

2. A Designated “Kid Helper”

Hiring a trusted sitter or asking a responsible teenager to act as the “kids’ helper” can keep things running smoothly. They’re not a full babysitter, but they can watch the play area, help with small activities, and give parents a chance to enjoy the evening.

3. A Kids’ Corner

Create a cozy area with pillows, blankets, games, or quiet activities. It helps contain the energy while giving children a spot to unwind when the night gets long.

These small touches show parents that you’ve considered their needs—while protecting the overall flow of your wedding day.

Why These Conversations Matter

Weddings come with candles, cameras, décor, open spaces, and lots of moving parts. Unsupervised children can (accidentally!) knock things over, wander into unsafe areas, or interrupt those meaningful ceremony moments you’ve looked forward to for months.

Clear communication keeps everyone safe and happy—and helps prevent awkward conversations later.

Your Day, Your Rules—Said with Kindness

Whether you choose adults-only, a family-friendly celebration, or something in between, your wedding should reflect you. And no matter which route you go, The Venue at Valley View Farm is always here to help you craft the right wording, keep guests informed, and create a celebration as smooth as it is beautiful.